Saturday, July 21, 2007

Sad Week

This week has been an extremely sad and bad week for us. Most of you I guess don't know much of of my life so I will fill you in on a little bit of it. Unfortunately a sad part, but here it is anyway.

When I was 34 I lost Amy's dad to heart attack. Totally unexpected so that caused an immeasurable amount of sadness, heart ache and grief in both our lives. But you soldier on as you do because you have to, for your child as well as yourself. We of course had great support from everyone and Amy and I managed.

I met Kim five years later and we married and have a wonderful son. Kim is a great husband and father.

Last Saturday we received a phone call from his brother to say that we needed to visit his mother right away in the nursing home as she is not well and her time is near. We did that, we went and saw Jeanie and unfortunately she was unconscious so I don't know if she knew that her entire family was there, but I hope she did.

Their family is a very dis functional one (too long a story to get into) and therefore extremely rare to have them all together. His mum passed away that evening not long after we left the nursing home and the funeral is this Monday.

As you all know Kim has not been feeling well and he continued to go to his doctor who then finally sent him for C.A.T. scans and he ended up needing to get a colonoscopy.

And he went and had it done on Wednesday(I took him), we found out that he has bowel cancer and will need an operation to have it cut out. We don't have private health cover so he will be going public, the hospital he is going to is one of the biggest and best in Melbourne and the surgeon that did the colonoscopy will try to be there to supervise it he said. When they do the op then they will see how far it spread etc and what will need to be done.

I was devastated when we were sitting in the surgeons office and he was telling us the bad news. I seem to have taken it worse then Kim I don't know why, perhaps he is just hiding it. We have not told our son, he only knows that there needs to be an operation. We will just take it one step at a time.

You know, I honestly though that it was just going to be a lipoma like my mum had and he would just have the op and that's that. But unfortunately not.

Some people that I spoke to about this have told me that they know of people that have had bowel cancer and once it's been removed they have been well and the cancer has not come back. So I pray that this will be the case with Kim.

I don't understand why this is happening to me twice. I have to ask the question why? Unfortunately there is now answer and I know that but I still can't help asking why.

I have done some knitting but only have a picture of my MS3. I am using Zephyr in Vanilla and vanilla colour beads but I think I would have liked the beads a little bit bigger because you can hardly see them. In fact on the photo you cannot see them at all. I have almost finished clue 3.

It's not blocked so you cannot really see it that well, sorry about that, I will try to post a better picture next time. I haven't touched it for a few days but will soon. I downloaded clue number 4 this morning. That's it from me for this week. Happy knitting to you all!


jacqui said...

Helen, Do take care of yourself. I hope everything goes well for your husband's surgery. Your stole is looking absolutely gorgeous - don't change a thing. Best wishes.

2paw said...

What a boogelly week: be positive and take care of each other. Hope everything goes well.

Cindy said...

Helen, I am so sorry to hear about this turn of events. My mom had the same cancer about 9 years ago. They removed a large part of her colon, and she has been absolutely cancer-free (no chemo, no nothing) ever since. KNOCK ON WOOD! I hope and pray that you and Kim have the same experience. My thoughts are with you.

Kathleen said...

I'm sorry to hear it's been such a difficult week. Wishing you all the best.

Live 2 Knit said...

My thoughts are with you, I hope the operation goes well & you can put all this behind you quickly.

Sue H said...

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers for a great outcome for Kim. As a nurse I have seen many people recover from bowel cancer, only some of them needing a permanent colostomy, so try not to let it get you down. A good friend of mine recently had his colostomy reversed and he is doing absolutely great. Think positive thoughts my friend.
BTW, your stole looks lovely, but I agree, I think I would like more prominent beads too.

Maureen said...

My goodness, I'm so sorry to hear what you and your family are going through.

My father just received the same news - colon cancer. His operation is Aug 3rd. I'm praying that the surgeon goes in, clears out the cancerous bits and we receive the news that 'alls clear'. I'll be praying the same for your husband.

Sarah said...

oh, Helen, I'm so sorry to read this. I will pray for Kim that the surgery goes smoothly and he is soon back in good heatlh.